A
Story of Hope
When you are diagnosed
with cancer, you go through a myriad of feelings, am I going to live,
how long will I live, how bad is it and the list goes on and on. A year
before I was diagnosed my mother-in-law had succumbed to breast cancer
after battling it for a year. My aunt on my mother's side had been diagnosed
a few years before but suffered no ill effects and succumbed from Parkinson's
disease and not cancer.
I was diagnosed with
breast cancer in 1993, then my mother's other sister was diagnosed and
then my brother's wife was diagnosed. It was like breast cancer had invaded
every aspect of my life. So many thoughts went through my head. I also
wondered how could this be, was there any more of it in our family that
I did not know about...
Yes, there was, I
found out as I began talking with my mother. My maternal great-grandmother
had died of breast cancer in the late 1800's before there was much known
about cancer at all, much less breast cancer. I found out about other
cousins on my mother's side of the family that had also been through the
breast cancer experience, one of which was 16 years old at the time but
it did not defeat her as she is in her seventies now. But there is one
cousin whose story has brought me more hope and inspiration than I can
ever imagine for hers is truly what I call a "story of hope".
Emma was diagnosed
with breast cancer when she was 33 years old. The cancer was in one of
her lymph glands, which resulted in a radical mastectomy. "There was no
chemotherapy back then, only the knife," she said. Talking about her cancer
is not something that comes easily for her.
"A long time ago people
were ashamed," she says. Which is why she said most people died because
they "waited too late." She said, "I can remember when I went into surgery,
there were so many young doctors there to watch the operation." The doctors
told her that she was cut so terribly that she was in the hospital for
six weeks.
After she had the
surgery, there were no follow-up treatments, only a few x-rays. "I didn't
heal for eight months and I finally had to go to New Orleans. I could
not do anything with my arm. I had it strapped down to my side but it
didn't bother me," she says. Emma would not believe the doctors when they
told her she would not be able to use her arm again and so she began to
exercise the arm herself (and this was long before we had Reach to Recovery
volunteers to tell us to exercise our arms).
Her husband helped
her to raise her arm every day and she eventually regained use of it.
Several years later her husband died and she was left to raise their sons
all alone. Emma has done a little bit of everything from working in the
fields, helping run the dairy farm that they owned and finally teaching
4th grade for 40 years. Cancer never got in her way. Emma says that she
had an aunt die of cancer and credits that for saving her own life. The
aunt that she speaks of is my great-grandmother whom I spoke of earlier
in this article.
There have been other
cancer survivors in her immediate family since, including her granddaughter,
a survivor of over 20 years and also a great-granddaughter. I am sure
her story has given them much hope too. "I know science will find a cure
someday" she has said.
Emma is the one that
keeps me hopeful year after year since my diagnosis. For what I have saved
till now is truly the best part of the story for Emma was diagnosed with
cancer at the age of 33 in 1928 and today in 2000, Emma is 105 years old.
A story of hope?
Yes, I would say so, wouldn't you?
- Lila M.
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